SUCCEEDING AT HOME

Building a good relationship at home is like building a wall: It's done brick by brick. And the mortar that holds it together is unconditional, un-condemning, unselfish love. The only way you'll know how good a job you've done is when it's tested by the storms of life. One of the most important keys to succeeding at home is communication. So:

1. Become Creative. Spend time together as a family. Call your mate during the day and try to meet sometimes for lunch. Drive your kids to school or football practice so you can talk to them. Communication can happen anywhere, but it won't happen unless you make it a priority.

2. Identify communication killers. Internet, cell phones and TV are the chief culprits. The average couple spends less than one hour a week in meaningful communication; they spend five times more each day watching television. This is a 'screen test' you'll have to pass if you want to succeed at home.

3. Encourage every member to speak their mind. And when they do, don't criticise or retaliate. Differences of opinion are healthy. Handled right, they can make things better.

4. Be conscious of how you interact with your family. You may have unwittingly adopted a style that stifles communication. Stop and consider; do you:
(a) retaliate - that has a degrading effect.
(b) dominate - that has an intimidating effect.
(c) isolate - that has a frustrating effect.
(d) co-operate - that has an encouraging effect.

If you're in the habit of using any communication style other than a cooperative one, start working immediately to change it. You'll have, if you want to build a good relationship with your family.

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HOW WELL DO YOU LISTEN?

Studies show we forget 50 percent of what we hear immediately, 80 percent within a day, and 97 percent within a week. So what's the solution?

When you listen, make understanding your goal, not just remembering facts. Great learners are great listeners; that's why they always have a flow of fresh ideas. The truth is, you'll never know how close you are to a breakthrough or a blessing until you learn to listen. Be honest. How often have you said you're going to spend more time listening to the people in your life who matter? Start doing it, because if you don't show up for life's "special moments," before you know it there will be none left to show up for. The people who really listen to us become the most important people in our lives. If you want to be one of them, you must do three things:

1. Look directly at the speaker. Don't belittle someone by catching up on work, talking on the phone, or tweeting and texting while they're talking. Focus on them.

2. Don't interrupt. When you do that, people think you don't place much value on what they're saying. Or that you're trying to impress them with how much you know. Or you're too excited by what you have to add to the conversation to let them finish.

3. Suspend your judgement. Wait to hear the whole story before you respond. If you don't, chances are you'll miss the most important things the speaker has to say.

Can you think of anyone you haven't been listening to lately? The good news is it's not too late to become a good listener.

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20 TRUTHS ABOUT LOVE

1. Love can't be explained.
2. Love is spiritual.
3. Love is all about sacrifice.
4. Love is a healing balm. It can heal anything (soul, spirit, body).
5. Unconditional love is the best kind of love.
6. No one has the control over the power of love.
7.Love is powerful and energetic.
8. Love strengthens someone.
9. One can be successful in any areas of life
if he/she is surrounded by love from others.
10. Love forgives.
11. No force is as powerful as love.
12. Love stands the test of time.
13. Love at times can be painful.
14. Love is contagious faster than any other
diseases.
15. God is the founder of love.
16. Love is the only solution to every
problem in this world.
17. Love is life.
18. Love is a mystery; it can't be fully unlocked
19. Love is the best character anyone could
possess.
20. The best gift you can ever give to someone is love.

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TAKE TIME TO REFLECT 3

If your goal is personal growth, then you must take time for reflective thinking. So:

1. Remove yourself from distractions. Reflection and distraction don't mix. Reflection requires solitude. It's not the kind of thing you can do well near a television, while the phone's ringing, or with children in the same room. You say, "But I don't have time to spend in reflection." We all have 168 hours each week. If you spend just one of them reflecting, you'll be amazed how your life will be enriched.

2. Regularly review your calendar or journal. Most people use their calendar as a planning tool, which it is. But few use it as a reflective thinking tool. What could be better, however, for helping you to review where you have been and what you have done - except maybe a journal? Those two things remind you of how you've spent your time. They show whether your activities match your priorities. They help you to see whether you are making progress. They also offer you an opportunity to recall activities you might not have had time to reflect on previously. Some of your most valuable thoughts may have been lost because you didn't give yourself the reflection time you needed.

3. Ask the right questions. The Bible says in Deuteronomy 32:29, "O that they were wise, that they understood this, that they would consider their latter end!" Ask yourself, " Am I growing personally and in my walk with God? Am I strengthening my relationships with the people who matter in my life? Am I using the gifts and sharpening the skills God has given me?" Reflecting on such questions can change your life for the better.

We've come to the end of taking time to reflect.

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TAKE TIME TO REFLECT 2

The digital age has great advantages. Through emails, texts, and tweets we can communicate quickly. The disadvantage is that it doesn't cultivate in us a desire to think about things deeply. You can't microwave personal growth; it requires a crockpot.

By taking time to reflect:

1. You gain confidence in decision making. Ever made a snap decision and later wondered if you did the right thing? Reflective thinking can help to defuse that doubt. It also gives you confidence for the next decision. Once you've reflected on an issue, you don't have to repeat every step of the thinking process when you're faced with it again. You've got mental road markers from having been there before.

2. You clarify the big picture. Reflective thinking helps us to go back and spend time pondering what we have done and what we have seen. To keep from making the same mistake over and over, you must stop and examine the process that led to it. In other words, reflection helps you to see the big picture.

3. You take a good experience and make it a valuable experience. They say we learn by experience. No, we learn from evaluated experience. An experience becomes valuable when it informs and equips us. That's why daily prayer and Bible reading are so essential. You'll understand things in God's presence that you won't understand any other way.

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TAKE TIME TO REFLECT (1)

TAKE TIME TO REFLECT (1)

When you take time to stop and reflect, you discover "honey" in your experiences that you can eat and grow stronger and wiser. When you reflect, you are able to put things into perspective; you gain new appreciation for things you didn't notice before.

Few of us have clear perspective in the heat of the moment. Most of us who have survived a traumatic experience usually avoid similar situations at all costs. This can leave us with unresolved issues that leave us tied up in knots.

Reflective thinking enables you to distance yourself from the intense emotions of an experience and see it with fresh eyes. Indeed, this process is one of the first steps to getting rid of our emotional baggage.

Each of us has been shaped by the experiences, good and bad, that we've had in life. What we refuse to deal with deals with us, and often in harmful ways. We "act out" of our unresolved issues. But when we bring them into the light and ask God for the grace to face them squarely, they lose their power over us.

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RULES FOR LIVING (II)

26. Accept people the way they are.

27. Never Judge anyone.

28. Self control and self discipline is key to

anything you do in this life.

29. Detest pride with passion. Embrace

humility. Everything you are today, is not by your strength, wisdom and power but by the grace of God upon your life.

30. Gather as much knowledge as you can in every areas that concerns life. It helps a lot.

31. That everybody is doing it does not make it right. That everybody is not doing it does not make it wrong. Look at every issue

critically before doing anything.

32. Having faith in yourself and God is key to anything you do in life. It brings about

success while fear brings about defeat.

33. Contentment is a good behaviour one

should harness.Where you are today, is a

dream of millions.

34. Never impose your will on people. It's a bad attitude.

35. One of the ways to waste time is to

worry. Worrying sap one's energy and yields no result. Try thinking it through or praying to your Father. Getting a good counsel from someone you uphold in high esteem is  highly recommended.

36. Mind what you feed your mind, eyes and ears with. Pleasant thoughts, sight seeing,

music or talks brings about pleasant results

and negative thoughts, sight seeing, music or talks brings about unpleasant results in one's life.

37. Nobody can hurt you without your

permission. Stay cool and calm in every

situation.

38. The best way to be wise is to unlearn.

When you unlearn, you have opened your

brain to new ideas, teachings, trainings and you tend to assimilate faster.

39. Never compare yourself with anybody.

You don't know how their journey has been or what it looks like.

40. Impact lives everywhere you go. That's

the best thing any human can be.

41. Nothing is impossible. Even the word says "I'm possible." It will only take time.

42. You are responsible for whatever

happens to you. Be accountable to yourself.

43. Find your purpose. If you do that, you will achieve a lot of things with less time because focus has set in.

44. Don't chase material things. Trust me, you could get yourself hurt in the process, and

the damage, most times, might not be repairable.

45. Live in the moment. Forget about the past. You shouldn't bother much about your future, if you know you are doing the right things

presently.

46. Use and do everything in moderation.

47. Family first. They are the ones that can

never be tired of you. Others can get tired or even forsake you.

48. Remember, you can have it all, just not atthe same time.

49. Get rid of bad relationships. If you do not, after a while, you begin to stink.

50. The last, but definitely not the least, take calculated risk. It could be your luckiest trial

 to success.

COMPOSED BY:

ADEOYE EMMANUEL,

Motivational Speaker, Writer, Singer

RULES FOR LIVING - Part(I)

1. Always be happy for everyone's successes.

2. Anything you can't tell your bestie isn't

worth doing.

3. Never do anything to impress someone.

4. Always be honest to yourself and

everyone.

5. Never tear down someone else's character to make yourself look better.

6. Make "I'm really sorry" a habit for life

whenever you offend someone.

7. The truth is always bitter, endeavour to

accept and walk in the truth whenever

someone tells you.

8. When the people you love and care for

hurts you, please learn to forgive them. It just helps to alleviate the pain.

9. Ensure you stay happy always. It

guarantees good health and long life.

10. Always thank God for everything He has done and He is still doing for you.

appreciation is an application for more, It

also shows a grateful heart.

11. Make "Thank you very much, I really appreciate" a habit for life whenever someone offer to help or assist you.

12. One of the quality one should harness is the art of listening to others and understanding their words and the manner at which they speak. It is a good relationship booster.

13. Study the art of quietness ; It helps a lot.

14. Give a nice response no matter what

someone says to you. Ensure it's the truth

anyway.

15. Always do to others what you will have

them do unto you.

16. Love a lot ; Trust a few.

17. Improve on yourself daily.

18. Giving always should be an essential part of one's life.

19. Don't expect everyone to love you. Be

grateful for the ones that love you.

20. Always do things because you really want.

to do them and not because of anyone.

21. Learn to study people before you begin a serious relationship with them.

22. Expect nothing from people.

23. Pay attention to everything in life. It

really helps.

24. Avoid gossips (i.e. saying negative things about people.)

25. Procrastination is a very deadly disease, Avoid it like a plague. It kills one's life gradually.

   Already found these regimens compelling and valuable? ; get to work ! , be pragmatic about this rules (though definitely it might be difficult to manage and abide by at the outset), you will surely be happy and contented at the end of it all.

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En Bonne Sante

THE ONE TASK YOU MIGHT BE MISSING

      How is it possible that most people fail to achieve their daily, not to mention their monthly or yearly goals ?

Why do people complain of inadequate time

when there is all the available time in the world to achieve what you aim for ?

It all bores down to a simple task you haven't thought of or you find difficult to execute ; MULTITASKING !

   By definition, Multitasking is just a procedure that involves one performing a 

number of activities  simultaneously under certain conditions.

      

Why is this Task important ?

The 21st century has ushered in a new era of doing things : conventional and orthodox ways of doing things have been constantly modified due to the way the world has been shaped.

So in many cases due to personal, global or natural reasons, we will just have to believe the time is not simply enough and there is sure truth to that. So how do we combat this problem, do many a task at a time!

You are in the market/business centre/waiting room or any other place : you are being delayed, why don't you use that time effectively to reflect on other plans ; present or future ?

You are working hard probably on a project or solving a problem and you are hitting walls solving it; why don't you take a breather and focus part of your energy on the things you can do while you still can?

       Now, it is important to that it doesn't apply to all situations otherwise it could lead to a decline in efficiency and productivity ; but in most cases, it saves time to execute other personal issues and necessities like sleep, meditation, quiet time, the right decisions and others ; which is where MULTITASKING takes it place.

 Stay Safe People 

En Bonne Sante !

GENERAL INFORMATIVE TITBITS ; YOU DO NOT WANT TO MISS THIS !

The word Brandy is derived from the Dutch phrase Brandewijn meaning "Burnt wine".

- American Negro hero Abraham Lincoln had a lot of taverns in his term as a way of also helping people.

- The pressure exerted by a popped champagne is about 90 pounds per square inch ; that is equivalent to three times the pressure of a car tyre and take could take your both eyes out.

- The sense organs of babies are about three(3) times as effective in adults.

- Hypochondria or Hypochondriasis is a medical condition in which a person has an uncontrollable and unnatural feeling of being sick.

The country India speaks over 800 ethnic languages

There is a lizard known as the Jesus Christ Lizard. This name is given to it because if it's ability to walk on water.

- Superfetation is a phenomenon whereby a woman is able to conceive while still having another foetus in her womb.

- A precise kick/hit to the nuts (testicles) is equivalent to giving birth to 160kids and breaking 3,200 bones at the same time.

- The word Amazon is for Greek goddess of athleticism as used in mythology.

- The brain is such a delicate issue that it starts bleeding on the slightest if touches.

- Cats are one of the most lazy animals in the world ; the sleep 70% of their lives.

- The last exploration/voyage to the moon was in the year 1972 by the Apollo 17 team.

- The American flags which were fixated on the moon during the Apollo mission would have turned white by now due to the adverse atmospheric conditions on the lunar surface.

- The first mobile phone call was Made by Martin Cooper ; a former Motorola inventor.

- Nomophobia is the fear of being without your mobile phone.

A survey conducted by SecurEnvoy showed that young adults and adolescents are more likely to suffer from Nomophobia. The same survey reported that 77% of the teens reported anxiety and worries when they were without their mobile phones, followed by the 25-34 age group and people over 55 years old ; Creepy !

- Female black widow spiders ; as similar to queen bees eat their males after  mating. For the male anopheles mosquito they die after mating

- Most of the insulin used in treating animals are gotten from pigs and sheeps.

- Alcohol (Ethanol) can also be used as the liquid in thermometers.

- It takes just six(6) minutes for alcohol to react with the brain cells and begin to take effect on the body.

QUANTUM COMPUTING ; THE 5G COMPUTERS !

Nature is built on knowledge and data discovered. The birth of a new discovery on any sect of humanity learning always creates a chain reaction of subsequent discoveries, knowledge and information worth knowing which expands Man's orientation and promotes upgrade in all aspects. To ensure the promotion of the universe and improve humanity as a whole man has to assess the current data and information he has, perform basic calculations to predict the future and maybe find out what would become of him.

   In any case, we are all aware of the changes that occur when something, someone or  an investment begins to boom ; more processing power/effort is needed ; this is the same for humanity, the more the data and discoveries, the more the calculations and the more resources to pool other than our mental capabilities.

      And this realization created the need for a alternative, an addendum, something that humors, mimicks and adapts to the way  the human mind analyzes and solves a problem and  Voilà !

   Computers were the only way !

In our first few years of highschool computer studies, we must have learnt about the G's ( Generation) origin of computers from basic computing devices like the abacus, Napier Rods( Bones ), Slide Rules to the more developed ENIAC Oriented Machines, The Pascaline, The Analytical Engine design by Charles Babbage but which was never built e.t.c paved the way for both privately and publicly owned corporations like Apple, IBM, Samsung, Dell, Microsoft e.t.c to develop general purpose minicomputers, mainframe computers, microcomputers, Supercomputers and other computing inventions.

    We are currently living in the 4G computer era as this explains the existence of 4G cellular networks and also the recent development of the 5G network ; a discovery which could usher in the  5G  computers ( Of which is the Focus topic on this article ! ).

  Retracing our steps, the 4G computers we have today are advanced in terms of processing power, compatibility, speed diversity in usage, portability and  at the same time moderately and relatively economical in terms of purchasing power for the all and sundry.

     Several decades ago, we had computers which were cumbersome and very difficult to carry about. But we leave in the world today where a preeteen kid can boast of a mobile computer (in form of a Phone) and the average man can move around comfortably carrying a personal computer (Laptop) in his backpack.

      

   - Several decades Ago, we had storage devices and hard drives  as big as a cassette player but today we can conceal a storage drive storing large amounts of data in the palm of our hands ; these are our SD cards and microprocessors. This is on epitome of enlightenment and revolutionized change.

   The 5G computer is already here and  in the nearest future it would become readily available and accessible.

 The evolution of the 5G computers has become a subject of interest in the academic world in various  higher institutions across the world. This field is termed quantum computing.

    What is Quantum computer ?  

Quantum computer is an entirely different species from previous computer being produced and manufactured. You can funnily call this computer a mutant because it has a different genetic makeup from the current computers we use for our daily activities today ! .

   Our present-day classical computers operate in a two way system ; a binary system. It is either wrong or correct, either zero or one, up and down or left and right.

 

 But this new breed of computers are quite what we do not anticipate ; It's name "Quantum Computer" explains that it uses the laws of quantum physics ; a branch of modern science that studies the existence of multiple amounts of  energy in very small and separate amounts. This principles is then applied to developing a quantum computer ! 

    It is well understood that our current computers operates on two possible outcomes( what we know as bits ) Meaning that if you were in an oil Field and you are prospecting for new petroleum materials and you run a drill about 10 times ; you will obtain 2 ×13(26) possible outcomes, but a quantum computer does calculation in an exponential way called qubits ; meaning you will obtain 2¹³ (8,192) possibilities ! 

  

  A stunning outcome of this magnitude could Bring about greater initiatives that has not been premeditated, it could create multiple amounts of opposing possibilities at the same time ; meaning you could have a computer that could literally be active and shutdown at the same time ! This term for that phenomenon is called SUPERPOSITION !

     

 You could also have computers which could be interconnected and controlled remotely with the exact same protocols ; this term is known as ENTANGLEMENT.

Not to even compare how this computer specie will be applied in the field of medicine, engineering, finance, general management, general science and humanity as a whole. 

  As I have previously mentioned , the 5G computer is already here and the first quantum computer built is called the D-WAVE 1  developed by D-WAVE systems; a quantum computer hardware company in the year 2011. The second quantum computer was more elaborate and it was called the D-WAVE 2 developed by Google and NASA in the year 2015 and it is still subject to improvements and modifications and when it is perfected ; we will be welcomed into the fifth generation of computers !.

         The major downside to this advancement is the vulnerability it will creates amongst humans. With the calculating prowess of a quantum computer ; one could easily have access to private profiles of persons, institutions and corporation unless serious measures are taken. A quantum computer will also help grow the productions of biological and chemical weapons, nuclear warheads and together with the ever perfect artificial intelligence it could create a weapon of planetary destruction ; especially if it falls into the wrong hands .

  Which then postulates the foreboding question, Is technology man's doom or man is man's doom ?.

   Let's hear your view in the comment section about the future of quantum computing on humanity and do not forget to follow this blogsite for more information and updates !